我的生活大小事

得知今天HBO下午有撥出，剛好是星期六的下午，
就偷懶在家等上映。

之前有看過這部片的後半段，但是一直沒有機會好好看完全部，
這次終於有這個機會，一定要好好把握的啦

看完之後很想推薦給女性朋友看，
也不知道該怎麼說，一直很羨慕那些可以把心裡所想完整寫出來的人。

在片中，rose是個很有內涵的文學系教授，
她有一個非常美麗的妹妹，還有一個風韻尤存的媽媽，
rose有美麗的內在，但是她不太注重外表，
常常被媽媽罵，被妹妹嫌，
或許在這樣的夾攻下，她對自己外表的信心已經沒有了。

很多時候，父母對我們的影響真的很大，
就像rose回家後，對媽媽說，
「你以前教我用食指把鼻子頂起來，這樣鼻頭才不會下垂；
    但是在你這樣說以前，我從來沒有覺得自己不好看。」

      You told me to push up my nose with my index finger.
     So it wouldn't droop. That's what you told me. 
     lt's funny, l never would have thought that l wasn't pretty, 
     if it weren't for those things you said.」

這句話直直的進到我心裡，
因為我常常這樣被嫌，
其實他們也不是故意的，就像rose媽媽說的，
「沒有父母會故意去傷害他的小孩。」
但是心裡不管怎樣，那份自信就是會消失，
會開始懷疑自己，我是不是不夠好??
因為那是我們的父母所說的，所以我們很在乎，於是我們開始要求自己。

而rose在沒有自信下，答應嫁給greg，
一個不錯帥，又聰明的數學系教授，
但是這位教授很好玩，面對女性的性吸引力時，會不能思考、頭暈、腳軟，
所以在聽了rose某堂課的某一小段後，
開始認為性是會破壞關係的原兇，向rose提出了一個沒有性的婚姻。
天知道這會有什麼後果!!

但是他們這樣單純的關係似乎對剛開始的發展是件好事，
因為不會被"激情"給沖昏了頭，
可以簡單的相處，在心靈上多些溝通，
其實是件好事啊~
畢竟在電影中所提到的，第一次約會有沒有接吻，或是約會三次上床論，
在他們之間就沒有這種"壓力"

當兩個人之間沒有性做為潤滑劑時，
個性上的契合相對來說就會比較重要，
兩人之間的溝通也更直接，不會因為潤滑而被忽略，
但是有了吸引也不是件壞事，
反而可以讓人更靠近，互相分享更多。

以下是rose在妹妹婚禮中對朋友說的話，
              You know what l envy about people in love?
              l'd love it if someone really knew me.
              What l like. What l'm afraid of. What kind of toothpaste l use.
              l think that would really be wonderful.

另一段是她在課堂上說的最一段話
              So the final question is: Why do people want to fall in love -
              - when it can have such a short run and be so painful?
              - Propagation of the species? - We need to connect with somebody.
              - Are we culturally preconditioned? - Good, but too intellectual for me.
              l think it's because, as some of you may already know ...
              While it does last, it feels fucking great.

這是整段
              This is the scene at my sister's wedding.
              She's getting drunk, regretting that she got married for the third time.
              My mom's sprouting snakes from her hair in jealousy. lt was perfect ...
              We've got three feminine archetypes: The divine whore, Medusa -
              - and me. What archetype am l?
              - The Virgin Mary? 
              - Thanks a lot, Trevor.
              No, the faithful handmaiden. Always the bridesmaid, never the bride.
              lt proves what Jung said all along.
              Myths and archetypes are alive and well and living in my apartment.
              As l stood beside the altar beside my sister and her husband to be, -
              - it struck me that this ritual, a wedding ceremony, -
              - is the last scene of a fairy tale. They never say what happens after.
              That Cinderella drove the prince mad by obsessively cleaning the castle.
              They don't say what happens after because there is no after.
              The be-all and end-all of romantic love was ... Mike?
              - Sex? 
              - You have sex on the brain.
              - Marriage. 
              - But it wasn't always like that.
              The  12 th century had ''courtly love'', which had nothing to do with sex.
              The relationship between a knight and a married lady of the court ...
              And so they could never consummate their love.
              They rose above ''going to the toilet in front of each other'' love, -
              - and went after something more divine.
              They took sex out of the equation, leaving them with a union of souls.
              Think of this. Sex was always the fatal love potion.
              Look at the literature of the time.
              All consummation could lead to was madness, despair or death.
              Experts, scholars and my Aunt Esther are united in one belief:
              True love has spiritual dimensions, while romantic love is a lie.
              A myth. A soulless manipulation. And speaking of manipulation ...
              lt's like going to the movies and seeing the lovers kiss ...
              The music swells, and we buy it, right?
              So when my date kisses me, and l don't hear strings, l dump him.
              The question is, why do we buy it?
              Because, myth or manipulation, we all want to fall in love.
              That experience makes us feel completely alive.
              Our everyday reality is shattered, and we are flung into the heavens.
              lt may only last a moment, an hour, but that doesn't diminish its value.
              We're left with memories we treasure for the rest of our lives.
              l read, ''When we fall in love, we hear Puccini in our heads.''
              l love that. His music expresses our need for passion and romantic love.
              We listen to La B鏌eme or Turandot, or read Wuthering Heights, -
              - or watch Casablanca, and a little of that love lives in us too.
              So the final question is: Why do people want to fall in love -
              - when it can have such a short run and be so painful?
              - Propagation of the species? 
              - We need to connect with somebody.
              - Are we culturally preconditioned? 
              - Good, but too intellectual for me.
              l think it's because, as some of you may already know ...
              While it does last, it feels fucking great.

很喜歡他的臺詞 這邊有